Why do some of us survive and why do other's fail? Well, my capstone project shed light on this question but did not solve the core issue. You usually do not try to fix things unless they are broken - and we don't always find social things worth the repair. But the passionate difference between love and hate is barely traceable. It takes as much energy to hate someone as it does to love them. This is why I view hate as the most negative & destructive emotion. It eats at you --- the hate as well as the lack of love.
It should go without saying that you can't have love in any form without a trace of hate cruising by to create balance. How the hell can you tell you love someone/something if you've never had a moment to hate it? If you've never known how to miss it? If it's never made you hurt?
The spectrum of love and hate are vast and blend together with ease that makes it nearly undetectable. We all want love, but not everyone is able to understand the subtle, hateful pain of loving relationships.
Saturday, September 29, 2012
Saturday, September 8, 2012
Conflict, Confusion, Comfort
There is a lot to be said for someone who is able to forgive. I have always forgiven easily . I think it's one of my stronger traits. I have some anger, which needs some forgiveness, regarding my employer. I just want paid for the time I have worked.
Anyway, I'm trying -- in every way imaginable. I mean, I'm literally speechless by the things that I am currently facing in my life. I feel as though we all have positive traits and negative ones. We also have to pay repercussions for the negative ways we act toward others.
A positive day to all.
Anyway, I'm trying -- in every way imaginable. I mean, I'm literally speechless by the things that I am currently facing in my life. I feel as though we all have positive traits and negative ones. We also have to pay repercussions for the negative ways we act toward others.
A positive day to all.
Friday, September 7, 2012
Attention
I try my best to not write in a manner which will identify people. There are times when my examples are a bit specific, such as now. We don't control who comes in to our lives but we have the ability to create who leaves it (or does not leave it) to the best of our ability.
I think that's why I have a sour taste in my mouth -- I just want to open it all in a MS Word document & hit 'undo' about 10 times regarding this situation. I mention this in passing and in no way want any type of attention or pity for my plight. I bet I'm not the first person to feel this way. It's not a regret, well, it is but I'm not angry with myself. I certainly wish I had been kinder, more understanding, or at least reciprocated the kindness I received.
Maybe that is regret, but it's not anger. I wish I hadn't hurt my sweet friend and wish them the best. There's no other way to put it.
I think that's why I have a sour taste in my mouth -- I just want to open it all in a MS Word document & hit 'undo' about 10 times regarding this situation. I mention this in passing and in no way want any type of attention or pity for my plight. I bet I'm not the first person to feel this way. It's not a regret, well, it is but I'm not angry with myself. I certainly wish I had been kinder, more understanding, or at least reciprocated the kindness I received.
Maybe that is regret, but it's not anger. I wish I hadn't hurt my sweet friend and wish them the best. There's no other way to put it.
Thursday, September 6, 2012
Movement and Unattachment
The most curious part of life is the way it kicks your ass and then gives you enough of a reward to continue while having faith in the future. That sound euphemistic, but it's true. Once you ride through the rough part it actually surprises you once the tide changes. Yet, as emotional creatures, we either adjust or we don't and I'm very resilient so I adjust.
I hate to say I'm a bit excited about life, but I am. I have made so many adjustments recently that I have decided to continue being existential about it -- in a Zen way. =) That sounds really irresponsible, yet allow me to explain. From the moment I saw my father die when I was eight, I knew that life wasn't fair and sometimes it was really fucking cruel. I know that I had no impact upon my father's death, yet his death impacted my life. Therefore, I have always had my unique spiritual look at life --- bad things happen to you but you don't have to react poorly to what you experience.
Poor reactions are usually caused by attachment to things or people which bring us happiness and prevent us from focusing upon the truly difficult things in our lives. Obviously, this is a Buddhist perspective of our experience but it's a necessary way for me to think. I have a cut & paste religious perspective ---- but right now, I have had a moment to write & I spent it talking about religion; dammit!
I hate to say I'm a bit excited about life, but I am. I have made so many adjustments recently that I have decided to continue being existential about it -- in a Zen way. =) That sounds really irresponsible, yet allow me to explain. From the moment I saw my father die when I was eight, I knew that life wasn't fair and sometimes it was really fucking cruel. I know that I had no impact upon my father's death, yet his death impacted my life. Therefore, I have always had my unique spiritual look at life --- bad things happen to you but you don't have to react poorly to what you experience.
Poor reactions are usually caused by attachment to things or people which bring us happiness and prevent us from focusing upon the truly difficult things in our lives. Obviously, this is a Buddhist perspective of our experience but it's a necessary way for me to think. I have a cut & paste religious perspective ---- but right now, I have had a moment to write & I spent it talking about religion; dammit!
Monday, September 3, 2012
Semi-Mortified
Here I am. I miss my mom. I miss having family and friend's and I have a difficult time with ALL holiday's. It's embarrassing to constantly feel that way so admitting it here is about as close as I'll ever get to admitting it.
I have tried and am going to continue trying to be the best person I can. I can't say that I've had a fabulous weekend, I won't say it was horrible. I can't say anything about this weekend -- well, I learned lessons this weekend. And learning is always a good thing. The subject matter may be annoying as hell, but if you don't get an opportunity to learn that, well, you'll be around things that are annoying as hell and soon you'll just accept it.
I want to be a likable person. I try to be likable and I think it's time for me to admit that I'm not doing a very good job. Not with the likability, but with the changing. My life has to change and I usually love it when this happens. I'm not so in love with it and I'm trying to not show any sort of weakness regarding this. It's human to dislike change, though. And there is usually positive ending. It's all about perspective.
Am I the 'asshole whisperer' --- if so, let's hope the asshole whisperer is quiet for the rest of the week!
I have tried and am going to continue trying to be the best person I can. I can't say that I've had a fabulous weekend, I won't say it was horrible. I can't say anything about this weekend -- well, I learned lessons this weekend. And learning is always a good thing. The subject matter may be annoying as hell, but if you don't get an opportunity to learn that, well, you'll be around things that are annoying as hell and soon you'll just accept it.
I want to be a likable person. I try to be likable and I think it's time for me to admit that I'm not doing a very good job. Not with the likability, but with the changing. My life has to change and I usually love it when this happens. I'm not so in love with it and I'm trying to not show any sort of weakness regarding this. It's human to dislike change, though. And there is usually positive ending. It's all about perspective.
Am I the 'asshole whisperer' --- if so, let's hope the asshole whisperer is quiet for the rest of the week!
Sunday, September 2, 2012
rain, chimes, and thunder
I know each day is a learning experience but not every experience is pleasant. Today I have had several and they have all been really enjoyable. 1) Worrying is a complete waste of my time. 2) You have to speak before you assume.
I have two polar opposite friend's to thank for these lesson's and I appreciate what they have brought me. I am focusing less upon giving a damn if I am 'liked' or 'disliked' and more upon how I can be a better person, in general. Better to those who are or are not my friends - better to myself - better to my living environment - generally, better. I think the happiness I can achieve with this will be much more fulfilling than anything else I can do to improve myself. I like to think as endings as times in which I am able to reflect and improve myself in ways I have never imagined.
Now, I'll admit that it would be nice if I knew exactly what I did so I could pinpoint my annoying actions, but it's no longer important. You can only reach out to someone for SO long before you give-up on them. Honestly, they gave up on me many weeks ago; but, that's not important now, either. I wish them the best and have to seek that for myself. I am deserving of it, even if it comes from an unexpected source.
I have two polar opposite friend's to thank for these lesson's and I appreciate what they have brought me. I am focusing less upon giving a damn if I am 'liked' or 'disliked' and more upon how I can be a better person, in general. Better to those who are or are not my friends - better to myself - better to my living environment - generally, better. I think the happiness I can achieve with this will be much more fulfilling than anything else I can do to improve myself. I like to think as endings as times in which I am able to reflect and improve myself in ways I have never imagined.
Now, I'll admit that it would be nice if I knew exactly what I did so I could pinpoint my annoying actions, but it's no longer important. You can only reach out to someone for SO long before you give-up on them. Honestly, they gave up on me many weeks ago; but, that's not important now, either. I wish them the best and have to seek that for myself. I am deserving of it, even if it comes from an unexpected source.
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